Listen to language – its very enlightening. You can hear the self-limiting beliefs that people have “become attached to” and really own. People will argue for their weaknesses and guard them like a highly prized possession. And yet these are actions that hold us back ultimately from where we desire to be and certainly from where we could be. For example, I recently heard some of the following statements which I’m certain you’ll recognise.
I can’t do that because…
Well that’s me…
He makes me so mad…
I can’t help worrying…
Can you see the patterns here? These comments are firmly in the effect area and they are often caused by our belief systems and experiences. One of the best examples of this I heard was during a recent meeting where we were discussing our children. My friend (name withheld to protect identity) started to describe a series of conversations he had had with his son whom was described as a trifle lazy. In fact he had said to his son frequently “you are so lazy”. During a later encounter he had asked his son WHY he wasn’t doing something, to which his son casually replied “it’s because I’m lazy dad”! Talk about give a dog a bad name. I think this is a good illustration of language and it’s impact.
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I am a highly experienced, energetic, persistent and innovative senior sales professional/sales leader and coach with 25 (plus), successful years of sales and leadership experience, developing and managing sales teams and winning new business with and through partner channels to deliver profitable revenue growth. My default approach is one of clarity, support, openness and flexibility.
I am by nature inquisitive and enquiring and whole-heartedly embrace technology that enhances our experiences. Fun is an incredibly important element of work/life for me, so whilst I am deadly serious about the business of business, I do like to work in an environment that is fun to be in.
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I thrive in teams - creating, developing and galvanising individuals into coordinated teams is my forte, and I love a fast-paced dynamic environment too, where great people challenge and ultimately deliver high-quality results for demanding customers.
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Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well-preserved body. But rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, with a beer in one hand, shouting "Whoo, what a ride!!"
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